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Tips to manage up for an Effective Boss Relationship


At one point or another in your career, you will report to a manager, the person you fondly- or not- call boss. The relationships that you immediate boss, and other company employees, are critical for your work success and career progress. Whether you like it or not, you’re in charge of your relationship with your boss.  Your boss has information that you need to succeed in your workplace

How To Develop An Effective Relationship With Your Boss

  1. The first  step is to develop a positive relationship with your boss
  • Relationships are based on trust.
  • Keep timeline commitments.
  • Never blind side your manager with surprises that you could have predicted or prevented.
  • Keep him/her informed about your projects and interactions with the rest of the organization.
  • Tell the boss when you’ve made an error or one of your reporting staff has made a mistake
  • Cover-ups don’t contribute to an effective relationship. Lies or efforts to mislead always result in further stress for you as you worry about getting “caught” or somehow slipping up in the consistency of your story.
  • Communicate daily or weekly to build the relationship.
  • Get to know your manager as a person – he/she one, after all. She/he shares the human experience, just as you do, with all of its joys and sorrows.
  1. Know that success at work, it is not all from you; but put your boss’s needs at the center of your universe.
  • Identify your boss’s areas of weakness or greatest challenges and ask what you can do to help.
  • Recognize the anxiety state of your boss; how can your contribution mitigate these concerns?
  • Understand your boss’s goals and priorities.
  • Place emphasis in your work to match his/her priorities
  • Think in terms of the overall success of your department and company, not just about you more narrow world at work.


  1. Look for and focus on the “Best” parts of your boss;
  • just about every boss both good points and bad.
  • When you’re negative about your boss, the tendency is to focus on his worst traits and failings.
  • This is neither positive for your work happiness nor your prospects for success in your organization.
  • Instead, compliment your boss on something he does well.
  • Provide positive recognition for contributions to your success.
  • Make your boss feel valued. Isn’t this what you want from him for you?


  • Instead of trying to change your boss, focus instead, on trying to understand your boss’s work style
  • Your boss is unlikely to change; she/he can choose to change, but the person who shows up to work every day has taken years and years of effort on her part to create.
  • And, who your boss is has worked for him/her in the past and reinforced his/her actions and beliefs
  • Learning how to read your boss’s moods and reactions is also a helpful approach to communicate more effectively with him.
  • There are times when you don’t want to introduce new ideas; if he preoccupied with making this month’s numbers, your idea for a six month improvement may not be timely.
  • Problems at home or a relative in failing health affect each of your workplace behaviours and openness to an improvement discussion
  • Additionally, if your boss regularly reacts in the same way to similar ideas, explore what she/he fundamentally likes or dislikes about your proposals.
  1. Learn from your boss.
  • Although some days it may not feel like it, your boss has much to teach you.
  • Appreciate that she/he was promoted because your organization found aspect of her work, actions, and/or management style worthwhile.
  • Promotions are usually the result of effective work and successful contributions. Be as a questionnaire in order to learn and listen more than you speak to develop an effective relationship with your boss.
  1. Ask your boss for feedback.
  • Let the boss play the role of coach and mentor.
  • Remember that your boss can’t read your mind.
  • Enable him/her to offer you recognition your excellent performance.
  • Make sure he knows what you have accomplished.
  • Create a space in your conversation for him to praise and thank you
  1. Value your boss’s time.
  • Try to schedule, at least, a weekly meeting during which you are prepared with a list of what you need and your questions
  • This allows him/her to accomplish work without regular interruption
  1. Tie your work, your requests and your project direction to your boss’s and the company’s overarching goals
  • Try to see the large picture ,while making proposals to your boss,
  • Your suggestion may not be adopted: resources, time, goals, and vision There may be are many reasons.
  • Maintain strict confidentiality
  1. At times you may disagree with your boss and occasionally experience an emotional reaction in relationship.
  • Don’t hold grudges.
  • Don’t make threats about leaving
  • Disagreement is fine; discord is Get over it.
  • You need to cooperate with the fact that your boss has more authority and power than you do
  • You are unlikely to always get your way.

By using this information, you can build a powerfully effective good relationship with your boss. Good Relationship has several characteristics like trust, mutual respect mindfulness welcoming diversity and open communication.

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